No Pain...is Alright!

A common misnomer regarding deep tissue (DT) massage therapy is that it is supposed to hurt in order to be productive. This cannot be further from the truth. I can say this coming from personal experiences as a receiver of DT massage and also as a professional massage therapist. I have learned DT techniques and implement them throughout each of my sessions with ALL of my clients, even the ones who say they don’t like a lot of “pressure”. DT techniques do not need to involve undue or “stressful” pressure or pain in order to “get the knots out”. Let me explain, first by explaining what deep tissue even means in the first place because perhaps this is where the duality and confusion originates.

Muscles have many layers of tissue, while also there are sometimes multiple muscles stacked on top of one another in our bodies. For example our backs have many layers of muscle upon muscle; there are the muscles that attach each vertebrae and muscles that run along both sides of the spine and there are more superficial muscles like trapezius. In order to get deep into muscle tissue, past the superficial muscles and into deeper layers, a skilled massage therapist must first know how to warm up all of the muscle tissue and surrounding connective tissue known as fascia. This involves what is known as Swedish technique, employing effleurage and petrissage strokes. Effleurage quite literally means “moving fluids” using circulatory methods, hence actually warming the tissue. And petrissage means “kneading”, “lifting” and “wringing” and when done correctly these techniques should NEVER hurt the client. If it does, there could be an injury or bruising and the therapist should check in with the client to ensure their comfort. Once enough effleurage and petrissage has warmed up the tissue, then a therapist can begin using sharper and more specific tools, such as elbows, forearms, fingertips and thumbs (then a combination of Swedish and DT work can be done throughout the duration of the session). Fingertips and thumbs should never be pointy or jabbing, but used with intention, fluidity and purpose. What I mean by this is that the therapist needs to think about what tool will work for a particular muscle and how other tools may not be appropriate for another part of a muscle and/or other muscles in the body. Furthermore, just because one tool works for one body does not mean that the next body will be as receptive. Massage therapists must adapt throughout even one session alone, different tools and techniques must be consistently implemented throughout, and they must continuously meet the client where they are THAT day as techniques used in previous sessions may not be appropriate for that particular session. We humans change daily, hourly, and sometimes by the minute! Clients bring a whole different set of issues to the table (yes, pun!) each time they come to me and it is my duty to adapt to them and check in on what they might need more of or differently that day than last time.

For me when I receive massage, I tend to like and need a lot of pressure with sharper tools on my upper back and shoulders, as well as neck. However when it comes to my limbs, “my appendicular skeleton”, I am quite tender in some areas, like biceps and triceps in my arms and my IT bands and quadriceps of both my legs. Where I am tender is where I know I need a lot of warming up, where I think there isn’t as much circulation as the axial musculoskeletal structures like head and neck and trunk of vertebrae. My appendicular skeleton needs more slow and steady hands with broader tools, like an open palm. Open palms with focused deep pressure moving up my IT band is just as productive as using a sharp elbow. And focused thumb work using circular strokes (as well as kneading, soft-fist figure-eights, lifting, friction, vibration) while covering various acupressure points is very productive and also feels wonderful. Simple and strong petrissage strokes can loosen muscle adhesions more productively and still feel better than pointy and sharp tools that cause me to wince in pain. I’ve received (and give) massage where the therapist does a mixture of all of these therapeutic and productive techniques while also has me inhale and exhale with his long strokes. This is an amazing technique that gets me (and my clients ) focused on my breath--meditative and zen--as well as really helps to loosen the muscle tissue and joints in a slow and purposeful manner. This is my type of massage and I think should be the go-to when envisioning DT, as opposed to “getting beat up” as I’ve heard folks say, and as I've experienced. Some clients request getting “beat up”, as they have said, because they are used to that being the DT massage experience. I say OKAY, understanding what they mean, but then I show how DT massage can be productive, loosening and relaxing while also not hurt. So far my feedback from folks has been exactly as described “wow, you do DT without it hurting and it feels so relaxing AND productive!”

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Take a Sweet Pause and Smell the Flowers

I have always cherished my ability to smell. Delicious smelling roses and peonies make me so happy. And have you ever been somewhere and smelled the scents, perhaps food cooking in the air, or the smell of rain on the pavement and suddenly had a vivid memory from years ago, maybe even from your childhood, pop into your head? And the memory tied to the smell is usually a happy one, maybe from summer camp or your grandmother's cooking? That beautiful aspect of being human is due to the part of the brain called the olfactory system, which is part of a complex set of structures known as the limbic system.  

The limbic system, often referred to as the emotional nervous system, is responsible for various functions such as learning and formation of memories, as well as decision-making capabilities along with emotional growth and development. The primary brain structures which make up the limbic system include the amygdala, hippocampus, thalamus, hypothalamus, cingulate gyrus and basal ganglia (identified as a group of subcortical nuclei). The amygdala is often referred to as the emotional center of the brain, while the hippocampus plays an essential role in the formation of new memories about past experiences. The thalamus and hypothalamus are associated with changes in emotional reactivity while the cingulate gyrus coordinates smells and sights with pleasant memories, among other functions. And the basal ganglia are responsible for motor control, learning and eye movement as well as some cognitive functioning. This complex system is the reason why we find pleasure in eating for example, and furthermore why certain medical conditions such as hypertension (high blood pressure) are associated with mental stress.

Considering the strong emotional component within the limbic system, it makes sense that the connection between smell and memory can encourage good moods. In doing so, certain smells can help to cope with things like anxiety and depression. Lavender does in fact help soothe and calm. Peppermint as well, and even certain plants, like basil. Some folks have allergies and asthma that may be triggered by certain smells/inhalants so it is important to ask my clients about these as they may present a contraindication for using essential oils in our massage therapy sessions. Menthol and eucalyptus are almost universally accepted--used in muscle rubs, and things like Vick's vapo-rub for the chest to help relieve upper respiratory congestion. There are also more natural rubs that use cayenne pepper and ginger, for example “Badger” (available at most health food stores) makes a good one. Diffusers are wonderful, providing humidified air along with a couple of drops of an essential oil. At night, putting in a couple of drops of essential oils in a diffuser, such as lavender and/or rosemary or eucalyptus and lavender, is so lovely and calming. I put on the diffuser with a little bit of some essential oils before bed and have noticed a change in helping me to fall asleep more smoothly. Humidifiers are beneficial for our health while sleeping anyway, and with the added bonus of a calming and fresh aroma it is truly heavenly. I also recommend putting a couple of drops (just a little bit goes a long way) of any essential oil on your temples or wrists when feeling anxious as this may help trigger relaxation and a general decrease in episodes of panic/anxiety.

Happy smelling!

Skin Care and Wellness

I grew up in New England on the ocean and I used to love being in the sun, which was more like “baking” in the sun in summertime. Now I'm in my late 30s, I have a TON of moles. My fair skin comes from my European ancestry and multiple family members on my Mom's side including my mom have had cancerous moles removed over the years. Basel cell carcinomas, melanomas. I had two severely dysplastic (abnormal skin cells/precancerous) moles removed and one melanoma (skin cancer) removed when I was between 33 and 35 years old, and that was the youngest anyone had ever been diagnosed with skin cancer in my family. It was a pretty routine surgery getting the melanoma removed (the MOHS surgery, it is called) but in retrospect it's a pretty big deal. I used to love to tan (even though my version of "tanning" involved burning my skin), I even went to the Bahamas by myself on a 4 day vacation in my late 20s just to feel the sun on my face and lay on the beach and swim in delicious tropical blue-green water and literally soak in the sun. It didn't matter that I was alone, I was in paradise! Fast forward ten years later and I'm the exact opposite. Well, not exactly. I still LOVE the tropics. Give me palm trees, pineapples, coconuts and Caribbean breezes all day, every day and I'm zen. My husband too, he and I got married in the Bahamas and our first vacation together was in the Bahamas. We even talk about how we may have perhaps crossed paths in Nassau 10 years ago and didn't know it, as we discovered we'd both been there at the same time so many moons ago. The only difference now is that I cover myself pretty much head to toe in zinc oxide (zinc oxide is the best "sunscreen" because it works as a sunblock, and it is completely natural) and SPF clothing, hats etc...and I monitor my sun exposure like a machine, it's like clockwork. I will tell you it has been a change for sure. I am extremely cognizant of my sun exposure, and it can be anxiety provoking at times, I'm not gonna lie. I love playing tennis and being outdoors, being in nature, sailing on the ocean--all of it. However even going outside to walk the dog, or simply engaging in a conversation with someone on the street in my neighborhood for more than five minutes is stressful if it's bright sunlight and I realize I have not put sunscreen on yet or that day at all. Putting on a ton of sunscreen, especially the thick and somewhat greasy zinc oxide is...well...it's not fun. And in the summer it is very hard to navigate this. Summer heat is intense and obviously being covered head to toe in clothing is not too feasible either and when simply going outside for a walk to boot! Nevertheless, I have some of my favorite products I use which make it easier. And when I see the results, as in no change in skin pigmentation after having been out in the sun, it's SO rewarding, and SUCH a relief. 

Trader Joe's has an amazing everyday face cream SPF 15 that uses zinc oxide. I put this on my face and neck everyday. CVS has a great zinc oxide sunscreen that is very affordable. Neutrogena sunscreen does not use zinc as much in their sun care products but I like their sunscreen nonetheless, I just have to apply and reapply a lot more. Zinc oxide has never bothered/stung my eyes either (whereas some sunscreens do). CeraVe is fantastic, I feel very safe with that on my face and body.

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Trauma Recovery and the Mind-Body-Spirit Connection

Hi y'all! Taking a sweet pause and giving a shot at writing a blog so here is my first post!

I am a psychologist/massage therapist/bodyworker/singer/dog lover and I have always loved writing. As you can see here, I own my own massage therapy business called Sweet Pause (@sweetpause). My focus in my practice involves treating the whole person (mind-body-spirit) so I strive to understand all aspects of each clients' lives from physical to emotional, including any ongoing medical issues as well as how they are feeling emotionally and mentally in the moment. Our brains, our nervous systems are intricately designed and furthermore so much of what we experience in our everyday lives stays with us in our bodies, especially for those who have survived trauma. Bessel van der Kolk, MD in his groundbreaking and informative work The Body Keeps The Score, Brain, Mind, and Body In the Healing of Trauma, explores this brain (mind)-body connection and encourages more research on how simply listening to our bodies more and "noticing and befriending the sensations in our bodies can produce profound changes in both mind and brain that can lead to healing from trauma" (2014).

For all of us, it is important to move and be active! So much of what I have learned about what is effective in trauma recovery treatments involves physical activity, nutrition and whole body wellness (bodywork/Pilates/yoga/massage therapy), or what we hear as the mind-body-spirit connection/balance. Homeostasis is the body's inner state of balance in an ever changing outside world, but that balance can get thrown off at any given moment and it does indeed all of the time, all throughout our days, our lives. We not only have musculoskeletal pains/issues/injuries but we may also experience chronic migraines, sleep problems, gastrointestinal distress, to name a few. The goal (in life in general, really) is to attain that homeostasis and most importantly to inhabit the nervous system's most deep and relaxed state known as the para sympathetic (an autonomic nervous system response not to be confused with the sympathetic nervous system response, which is known as "fight or flight" when cortisol levels are high and our body is involuntarily in a state of distress/trauma). When our bodies and our minds are in balance in a parasympathetic state, that is when we are healing, meditating, digesting and sleeping. Exercise (in all of its many varied forms) as well as eating well, getting regular massage/bodywork, being in nature and meditating are all examples of ways to reach this parasympathetic state, this wonderful and pure homeostasis. I want to share my own experience surviving trauma and some health issues, and how I have found healing and strength in healthy living/wellness/nature.

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